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This has drawn ire from some, with one man asking me on Twitter why I care about “the plight of Asian men” when I “never seem to date them”.
Growing up surrounded by Western media and ideals, I know I have been conditioned to have an unconscious bias myself, and I am trying to decolonise my desire – this is an ongoing process of unlearning.
When I’ve told men off on dating apps for their overt sexualisation of me based on my race, their tones have often changed from sweet and flirty to violent. “You’re not that good anyway.” What’s interesting about the politics of sex and race online is that Asian men often face the opposite problem of having their sexuality and desirability erased altogether.
“No blacks, no Asians” is a common catch-cry on apps like Grindr, with the more nefarious users going a step further to categorise ethnicities by food names (“no rice”, “no curry”).
Established in 2004, a whole six years prior to Tinder, the dating site OKCupid ensured its longevity when it sought help from Tinder in 2013 to implement the swipe into its own platform.
They see us as a blank page, waiting for them to bring us alive on terms that are anything but our own. Karen, 26, didn’t list her race, or that she could speak Japanese, when she used Ok Cupid “to try and minimise my encounters with weebs”.
“It kinda worked,” she told me, “but in hindsight, it’s really fucked that I have to do so much to keep them away.” Kelly, 26, has been called racist for stating on her profile that she wasn’t interested in contact from those specifically seeking Asian women (WHAT THE???
Generally, most users on OKC — and by extension, other sites — “swipe left” on black women and Asian men the most.
What’s the difference between having a “type” and fetishisation?